So why begin from birth? Or even conception?
How you touch baby, talk to baby, set up your home, and how you respond to their efforts at communication is all part and parcel of introducing the Montessori method.
A baby has an unconscious absorbent mind. They are taking in impressions of the world around them without any effort. And they absorb the good as easily as the bad.
So, create beautiful environments for them to absorb. Speak with rich language for them to take in, and touch gently giving baby respect from birth.
You can already lay the foundations to the way they explore and how they feel about themselves. For example, giving them the opportunity to work out how things respond to their touch, allowing time for them to explore their space, and responding to their efforts. Don't rush it and don't worry if you don't feel you're getting the results - its all about the journey and every baby develops at a different pace.
Communicating with baby
Babies understand everything even from a young age. So even if they cannot yet answer back:
1. Ask them questions, e.g., “Do you hear the fire engine?”
2. Show them things, eg, “Look at the tulip. It has red edges on the petals.”
3. Let them know what is happening, e.g., “We are getting ready to visit Grandma…”
4. Use rich language, e.g., use the real names of trees, flowers, animals, dogs, vehicles etc
5. Respond to their attempts to communicate
6. Repeat the sounds they make
7. Take turns with them – let them poke out their tongue and do the same. They are learning how to take turns in a “conversation”
8. Read books – it is never too early to start with books. Begin with black and white books, then simple word books with beautiful pictures, and move onto rhyming books. Around 1 year old, lift-the-flap books are great too.
The most important thing is to get their permission before you handle them. If you are going to change their nappy, first tell them, “We are going to change your nappy.” When you get in the habit of doing this, you may even see them begin to raise their head as if to say, “I’m ready”.
Montessori materials for baby
1. Natural materials
As with older children, we are very conscious to offer materials made of natural materials and fibres for example, wood, rubber, metal, paper, different fabrics. They love to grasp and explore these materials, particularly with their mouths.
2. Less is more
Buy less than you think and, rather than needing to buy a lot, also let your child explore safe household items. The baby is able to choose more easily when there is less available and they can more deeply explore these items.
3. Observe your child to know what to offer them
“How do I know what to offer?” And my answer is to observe them. If they lose interest quickly it may be too easy or even too difficult. Allow for some struggle, but with enough possibility for success. Again, patience is the key and although may parents seem to compete with their baby being ahead of the game, remember that each child is individual. This method allows you to start to see your baby's personality even when they're tiny.
Every time you offer a toy, observe your mini me to see how they respond, to see what they are working to master. If they are grasping at a bracelet, offer more grasping opportunities. When they start to pull up, set up the environment to have more opportunities to pull up in their space.
Keep offering a variety to explore, one at a time. And only change when the baby loses interest.
Don’t forget household objects are wonderful to explore for babies – your wooden spoons and utensils will provide lots of interest for a curious baby.
Special note: Allow them to mouth everything – this is how they explore the world around them however be sensible about what goes into their mouth, especially in today's pandemic.
Children spend a lot of time strapped into objects - bike seats, car seats, baby wraps, and bouncer chairs. Here are some ideas to counter all this sitting and restricted movement:
1. Allow lots of time for free movement
A movement mat in the living area allows space for the baby to explore their bodies, practising to stretch, bring feet to mouth, roll over and eventually to wriggle to reach things and eventually crawl.
2. Keep clothing simple
Make sure it is easy to move in, keep feet uncovered as much as possible to allow them free movement and to grip with their toes, and keep to natural materials.
3. Let them experience a variety of settings
I always carried a small mat with me so I could put Aimee on the ground at the park, at someone’s house etc while my daughter explored.
4. Provide stimulating materials to engage with
They will want to work to reach, touch and explore them.
5. Adjust your environment to provide new challenges
As they start to pull up, you can add a low ottoman or bar on the wall to pull up on. A push wagon provides an opportunity for a child to practise walking.
6. Collect a basket full of soft balls
Once crawling, a basket of soft balls to chase after, to practise rolling and catching, and easy to grasp with small hands is perfect.
Special note: Try to avoid holding your child’s hands so they can walk. Their hips are probably not ready to support themselves. Instead create spaces that allow your child plenty of opportunities to pull up and furniture to cruise along.
It’s not about getting your kids to be the first to walk. We are making the baby feel competent, confident, and excited to constantly explore, learn, and grow.
* to observe your infant
* to offer activities that meet their needs right now
* to allow them free movement
* to have lots of rich conversation
And handle them, and speak to them, with respect.
You really can use Montessori for babies. All these Montessori principles apply to an infant and, indeed, to a child of any age.